A friend of mine passed this article on to me:
City Critic - Commitment, the Best a Lesbian Couple Could Do - NYTimes.com
It hit home, kind of hard.
Six months after Beloved Wife and I started dating, we got hit with heavy-duty medical shit. We waited four years to get married (religiously, not civilly). Then last fall, when one of us was getting ready for major surgery, we did the civil union thing in NJ. We feel like the mayor and everyone involved at City Hall is invested in our marriage now. But we knew that NJ hospitals don't always respect civil unions "because they're not marriages," even though the NJ Supreme Court says they're supposed to.
This story brought tears to my eyes...